Dating [anecdotes, fails]

Hello! Let's talk about dating!
- Have you ever date a stranger ? With apps/online ?
- Imagine your perfect date
- What's your turn off ? (you found out (s)he's racist)
- have you ever had a bad experience in dating ?
- how do you find subject to talk about during your first date ?

Talk about whatever you want actually, as long as it's crispy haha!

I can't even remember the year of my last "first date".

I only had two dates in my entire life, and I had a good time. The second date (may 2019) is actually my boyfriend, we just spent times in some bars and in a nightclub, it was very funny. Usually, I am inspire about the subject each week but today not really.
I've never had weird questions or uncomfortable situation with my dates, and I don’t know what a perfect date to me is. I think the most important is to find the other person interesting when you talk to him (her) and when you have always something (pertinent) to say it is the one. If during the conversation there is a gap, it is usually hard to start over. For the place For me that’s the most important for a first date because if you go in a date it is because the person is attractive so you don’t need more for the moment. I forgot one thing, it is better having a date in a neutral place like a bar or restaurant because if you want to live it is easier and sometimes you don’t know how the other person would react if you live his place early (he can be aggressive). The place doesn’t really matter if you are with the right person, other things are just details.

How to talk about at a date ? I find this subject interesting.
Let’s make a fast comparaison of the date in the 80’s and the current date. There is a burdon between these two way of date. The behaviour of the people is totally different. But why ? The reason which can explain that is the importance of social medias and technology in our life. Some specialists talk about the new phenomoen arrond its avenment. The smartphone is more than an object but its a part of us. It contains our virtual life. So it’s interesting to take a moment to look at our current way to date someone.
Florian asked us if we have ever date a stranger and if it was via apps? It’s an interesting question because if we compare our experience to yours John, I am persuade that today’s people don’t take time to know the interest person. At your time, when you were our age, technology wasn’t developped at all. There haven’t any information about the person you want to date at your fingertips. People have to learn how to know the person who takes their heart. At the time, the dating was real, sincere.
With the social medias, the attention is put on the appearance. Our bio, our pictures' feed, our community, our influence. I have the impression that we only focus our attention on what the person shows us rather than on what he/she is.

I am curious to know. And you, what do you think about that ?

salomekj wrote:How to talk about at a date ? I find this subject interesting.
Let’s make a fast comparaison of the date in the 80’s and the current date. There is a burdon between these two way of date. The behaviour of the people is totally different. But why ? The reason which can explain that is the importance of social medias and technology in our life. Some specialists talk about the new phenomoen arrond its avenment. The smartphone is more than an object but its a part of us. It contains our virtual life. So it’s interesting to take a moment to look at our current way to date someone.
Florian asked us if we have ever date a stranger and if it was via apps? It’s an interesting question because if we compare our experience to yours John, I am persuade that today’s people don’t take time to know the interest person. At your time, when you were our age, technology wasn’t developped at all. There haven’t any information about the person you want to date at your fingertips. People have to learn how to know the person who takes their heart. At the time, the dating  was real, sincere.
With the social medias, the attention is put on the appearance. Our bio, our pictures' feed, our community, our influence. I have the impression that we only focus our attention on what the person shows us rather than on what he/she is.

I am curious to know. And you, what do you think about that ?

It's an interesting question. I think that when I was young we used to date people in our personal circles so school/uni/work/community so we knew the people better. that has benefits but also limits both in population, historical baggage and the aftermath of dates or relationships. Your world is bigger for choice, more adventurous and possibly a little more dangerous.

What could I add after Salomé ?

I agree with her, I find today's date more superficial, I would have loved the time of ball, the time people where dancing together and not just twerking. Today men don't want to dance a couple dance but it's so special I love it, I will show to my boyfriend step by step how nice it is ahah

It's true our world is bigger, I never though I would have dated a stranger but I did ahah, nice story to tell to my futur children

Also I always have been stress about what to say during a date , I was afraid to seem stupid but now that I grew up I can say that if you don't have anything to say is because you don't feel confortable because when you are it's just easy and simple.

I've never been on a date with someone I didn't know. Fortunately because being a shy girl , I would have gone a week without sleeping! On the other hand, I have had dates with people I had met before.

So many things make me want to go on a first date, night walks, a picnic, even a mcdo would suit me ! Of course, a very elaborate date would make me very happy, but the most important thing is to share a moment with the person I want to get to know...

To find a conversation, I am naturally very anxious, how many times have I said to myself "imagine, you have nothing to say ? » ? But I agree with Léa, the feeling will be there. There can be blanks, out of embarrassment and stress, but if the magic is there, you feel it, and the blanks are not at all disturbing (maybe because we get lost in the other person's eyes... yes, I'm a great romantic! ).

I don’t really have some funny anecdotes to tell… Or maybe the first time I had a serious date with my ex at the restaurant. I remember I tasted some onion rings, believing it was something else and praised for him not to try to kiss me afterwards. Fortunately, he did not (well, not this time).
I also tried some Tinder dates and it was always deceiving: boys were never the same online and in real life (I mean, not so much physically but especially psychologically), they were just weird and not subtle at all about what they were looking for in a relationship, not the same as I do.
Fortunately, after a few years of awkward experience, I enjoyed some great dates with my actual crush at the beach, alongside a lake…

Admin wrote:

It's an interesting question. I think that when I was young we used to date people in our personal circles so school/uni/work/community so we knew the people better. that has benefits but also limits both in population, historical baggage and the aftermath of dates or relationships. Your world is bigger for choice, more adventurous and possibly a little more dangerous.

I totally agree with you. Even if we are turned to technology, it's not a bad thing at all. I hadn't this vision of the situation. Like you said, our world allows us to live an exeptional life, to discovers other people, cultures, stories... and we have too take advantage of it. Thanks to have shared your thoughts about it.